✨ Is Travel Like Finding Your Soulmate? It’s All About Being at the Right Place at the Right Time
I was rewatching an old episode of Sex and the City when Carrie asked if timing is everything when it comes to finding a soulmate. Is every second of our lives controlled by fate? Or is life just a series of random occurrences?
Naturally, this sent me into a spiral — because if timing matters in love, does it also matter when it comes to travel? If I hadn’t postponed a trip… If my flight hadn’t been delayed two hours… If I’d chosen a different weekend entirely…
Would the trip have been different? Would my life be different? Would I be different?
Then I got to thinking — which is always dangerous — and I landed on a conclusion that feels both unhinged and deeply poetic: Travel might be the closest thing we have to finding a soulmate.
Not in the “I fell in love with a man named Luca on a Vespa in Rome” way (although if that happens, please contact me immediately). I mean in the way that travel, like soulmates, shows up when you need it, changes you when you’re ready, and makes absolutely no sense until suddenly it does.
Some people believe soulmates are written in the stars. I believe they might be written in your passport.
Let’s unpack this.
🌍 Travel Finds You When You Need It Most
You know how people say you meet “the one” when you’re not looking? Travel works the same way.
Some of my best trips weren’t planned. They were spontaneous, chaotic, and full of moments that felt like the universe nudging me forward.
It’s like the universe said, “Sweetie, you’re spiraling. Here’s a cheap flight to London. Go reset.”
So, I did.
Travel arrives the same way a soulmate does — unexpectedly, and if you’re lucky, right on time.
✈️ Timing Is Everything (In Love and in Layovers)
You can visit the same city twice and have two completely different experiences. You can meet the same person twice and feel something entirely new.
Just like finding your soulmate, travel is all about timing:
who you are when you arrive
what you’re carrying emotionally
what you’re ready to let go of
what you’re open to discovering
The right place at the wrong time feels off.
I once went to a tiny, charming island in Exuma, Bahamas — it was a complete disaster. Everything possible went wrong and ended with a full-blown melt down.
I swore I’d never go back.
But a couple years later, the opportunity came again and I felt I owed it to myself to redo my experience. And this time, everything aligned. It was a perfect trip from a flight upgrade, to multiple celebrity sightings, checked off a bucket list item going to see the swimming pigs, and so much more.
Same place. Different timing. Completely different experience.
The right place at the right time feels like magic.
💫 You Have to Be Open to the Unexpected
Some of the best travel moments happen when you ditch the plan or ditch the expectations. Some of the best relationships happen when you ditch the checklist.
I’ve had trips where:
I showed up to a city I knew nothing about and ended up in a 5-star cliffside resort in a city built out of fairy chimneys and caves
a wrong turn led to the best meal of my life
a missed tour led to everlasting memories involving the best jazz music you’ll ever hear with new friends
a spontaneous “why not” led to me leading an 8-hour tour in Ireland with zero experience
a random conversation shifted my entire perspective
Travel rewards openness. So do soulmates.
You can’t script the magic — you just have to show up for it.
💛 Both Teach You Who You Really Are
Travel shows you who you are when no one knows you. Soulmates show you who you are when someone finally sees you.
Both experiences:
stretch you — because growth never happens in your comfort zone
challenge you — because you can’t evolve without friction
soften you — because vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness
reveal you — because the real you shows up when you’re unguarded
Travel teaches you who you are when you’re alone. Soulmates teach you who you are when you’re loved.
And somewhere in the overlap — in the courage, the curiosity, the softness, the honesty — you meet the truest version of yourself.
🌙 Some Places (and People) Feel Like Fate
There are cities that feel familiar the moment you land. There are people who feel familiar the moment you meet.
You don’t know why. You don’t question it. You just feel it.
I went to Spain, and it instantly felt like home. I don’t speak much Spanish, but I felt like I could move there and start a life for myself. This place made me feel alive like my first great love.
Maybe it’s déjà vu. Maybe it’s intuition. Maybe it’s the universe winking at you.
Some places imprint on you the same way certain people do — quietly, deeply, permanently.
🌺 Not Every Place Is “The One” — And That’s Okay
Just like dating, not every destination is life‑changing.
Some trips are fun but forgettable. Some are chaotic but educational. Some are healing. Some are transitional. Some you don’t appreciate until they’re gone.
But every single one teaches you something:
what you want
what you don’t
what you’re ready for
what you’re done tolerating
Travel is basically the dating app of self‑discovery — except the views are better and no one says “sorry, I’m bad at texting.”
🌅 When It’s Right, You Just Know
There are places where everything clicks:
the energy
the people
the food
the version of yourself that shows up there
You feel grounded and alive at the same time. You feel like you belong without trying. You feel like you could move there tomorrow and start a new life.
That’s Spain for me.
That’s how soulmates feel too — effortless, aligned, and strangely inevitable.
✨ Maybe the Real Soulmate Is the Journey
Here’s the plot twist:
Maybe the soulmate isn’t a person or a place. Maybe it’s the version of yourself you meet along the way.
Travel becomes the love story. You become the main character. And the world becomes the partner that keeps showing up for you.
Right Place. Right Time. Right You.
Solo Travel or Bust
Solo Travel or Bust: Why Going Alone Might Be the Most Empowering Thing You Ever Do
There comes a moment in every woman’s life when she realizes she has two choices: wait for everyone else to get their schedules, finances, and emotional stability together… or just book the trip for yourself. This is where Solo Travel or Bust is born — not from fearlessness, but from the refusal to put your life on hold for people who can’t commit to brunch, let alone Bali.
Solo travel isn’t just a trend. It’s a movement. A mindset. A declaration that your joy, your growth, and your experiences are too important to delay. And if you’ve ever felt the itch to book a flight alone, consider this your sign to do it.
💛Why Solo Travel Is the Ultimate Power Move
1. You Stop Waiting for Permission
Group chats are where travel plans often go to die. Someone’s broke, someone’s pregnant, someone is waiting to get their work schedule, someone is waiting to see who else confirms first, and someone’s boyfriend suddenly has a lot of opinions.
Solo travel removes the committee. You want to go? You just go. You want to leave tomorrow? Pack the bag. You want to spend three hours in a museum or skip it entirely? Don’t need to check in with anyone.
It’s freedom in its purest form.
2. You Learn What You Actually Like
When you travel with others, you compromise — on food, activities, pace, even sleep schedules. When you travel alone, you discover your real preferences:
Are you a sunrise hiker or a sleep‑in‑til‑10 girl
Do you prefer street food or white‑tablecloth dining
Do you want to sit on a beach and party all day or wake up early for a full day of excursions
Do you want to wander aimlessly or plan every hour
Solo travel is the equivalent of dating yourself… except you actually get to pick the restaurant.
3. You Become the Main Character
There’s something cinematic about walking through a new city alone with your headphones in. You’re not lonely — you’re mysterious. You’re not lost — you’re exploring. You’re not alone — you’re in your independent‑woman era. You get to write your very own Emily in Paris story, and hopefully it comes with a Gabriel.
Solo travel gives you the kind of confidence that doesn’t come from compliments or validation. It comes from proving to yourself that you can handle anything.
4. You Open Yourself Up to Meeting Locals and other Travelers Alike
I think one of the biggest myths about solo travel is that it’s going to feel lonely. I think many don’t realize just how social solo travel can be. When you’re alone, you naturally become more open, more approachable, and more curious about the people around you. You’re not tucked into a friend group bubble — you’re out in the world, and the world responds.
You might meet another group traveling who takes you in as their own and create a lifelong friendship. You may meet a local bartender at this trendy bar you passed while wanderlusting the streets on your own. Your driver to the hotel may give you this great life advice and you still talk about him today. The possibilities are endless.
5. Unexpected Opportunities Find You More Easily
One of the most underrated parts of solo travel is how many unexpected, serendipitous opportunities show up when you’re not tied to anyone else’s plans. When you’re alone, your schedule is flexible, your energy is open, and the universe seems to slide little surprises your way.
You end up saying yes to things you never would’ve considered at home. One of my favorite travel stories is when I ended up hosting an 8-hour trip to the Cliffs of Moher in Ireland over a very big misunderstanding. I played along and just went with the flow—otherwise I would not have made it on the trip, especially if I had a plus one!
Other examples that may inspire you:
· A last‑minute invite to a sunset boat ride
· A cooking class you stumble into because you smelled garlic and followed your instincts
· A local festival you didn’t know existed
· A spontaneous day trip with people you met an hour ago
· A hidden beach a taxi driver insists you “have to see”
· A job lead, creative idea, or life‑changing conversation that happens because you sat next to the right person
Solo travel teaches you to stay open, curious, and willing to pivot.
💛 The Emotional Benefits No One Talks About
You Build Trust With Yourself
When you navigate a foreign place alone, you learn to rely on your instincts. You make decisions without second‑guessing. You become your own safety net — and that’s powerful.
You Heal Faster
Breakups, burnout, friendship fallouts — solo travel has a way of clearing emotional clutter. There’s something about being far from home that makes everything feel lighter, less permanent, less overwhelming.
You Become Comfortable With Your Own Company
Silence stops feeling scary. Alone stops feeling lonely. You realize you’re actually pretty great to hang out with. This is how you learn to fall in love with yourself.
The Fears Are Real — But So Are the Solutions
“What if something goes wrong”
Things go wrong at home too. The difference is: you’re capable everywhere.
“Won’t I feel awkward eating alone”
Only for the first five minutes. Then you realize no one cares — and you start to enjoy it.
Is it safe?
With research, awareness, and common sense, solo travel can be incredibly safe. Women do it every day. If you’re struggling with this, perhaps try somewhere close first to see how it feels. If you felt comfortable navigating on your own, go somewhere further next time.
The Truth: Solo Travel Changes You
You come home a different person. More confident. More grounded. More aware of what you want and what you deserve.
You stop shrinking yourself. You stop waiting for others. You stop apologizing for wanting more.
Solo travel teaches you that the world is big, life is short, and you are capable of far more than you ever gave yourself credit for.
✈️💘 I Can Plan an International Trip Before He Can Plan a Date
Let’s talk about something I’ve recently discovered about myself:
I can plan a 14-day international itinerary — complete with flights, hotels, cruise, activities, restaurant reservations, currency tips, and a color-coded Google map — faster than a man can decide what time he’s free on Friday.
And honestly? That says a lot.
Here’s the thing: When I want to go somewhere, I book the flight.
When I want to see something, I do the research and build an itinerary.
When I want a vibe, I make it happen.
Meanwhile, he’s still “figuring out his schedule.”
His schedule = absolutely nothing but vibes and vague commitments he made to himself in the shower.
✈️ There’s a special skill in being a woman who travels
Women who travel solo, often, or even with their girlfriends all have the same superpower: we make things happen.
Quickly. Efficiently. Effortlessly.
Need flights? Done.
Need hotels? Booked.
Need a full list of activities, hotspots, rooftop bars, hidden gems, and cute photo spots?
Already saved to a folder.
Meanwhile, the guy you’re texting is still typing, deleting, and retyping:
“What do you wanna do?” Or, my favorite: “WYD?”
💬
Here’s why we can plan trips so fast:
1. We’re used to taking care of ourselves.
We don’t wait for someone to make our lives fun or memorable — we just go.
2. We know what we like.
Food, views, vibes, hotels… we have standards, and we’re not shy about them.
3. We’ve learned not to rely on men for planning.
Because let’s be honest:
If I left my weekend up to him, I’d end up making plans my friends instead because he waited too long to decide what he wants to do or I get a last-minute request to come over and watch a movie that we’ve already seen.
4. We have main-character energy.
We’re not waiting around for someone to choose us — we’re choosing experiences.
✈️ Planning a date shouldn’t be harder than booking a flight
A date is literally:
Pick a day
Pick a time
Pick a place
ONE place.
Not five hotels, two airports, three train stations, and a ferry.
And still…
Men act like this is the most complicated decision of their lives.
If I can cross a border, navigate a foreign subway system, and order food in a different language, he can… bare minimum… choose a restaurant.
But somehow? No.
💘 So what does this mean?
It means I’m done over-investing in under-planned men.
If I can plan a whole international trip in 24 hours, I’m not accepting:
“Let’s just see what happens”
“I’ll let you know later”
“What do you wanna do?”
“I’m bad at planning”
“WYD”
You’re not bad at planning.
You’re bad at effort.
And effort is the bare minimum.
✨ Final thought
If a man wants to see you, he’ll plan.
If he wants to date you, he’ll make it clear.
If he wants your time, he’ll value it.
Until then?
I have flights to catch. ✈️
And I promise you:
I will always book a plane ticket faster than I will wait on someone’s bare-minimum energy.