Cruising 101: A Beginners Guide to Cruising
Curious about cruising? This insider’s guide explains the basics, the different types of cruises, and why so many travelers end up loving life at sea.
Norwegian Cruise Line in Jamaica
If you’ve ever been curious about cruising — or maybe even skeptical — you’re not alone. I’ve spent years working for and with several cruise companies, and I’ve heard every question, every misconception, and every “I’m not really a cruise person” comment you can imagine.
But here’s the truth: Cruising isn’t one thing. It’s not one style, one ship, or one type of traveler. It’s a whole world of travel options — and most people only know a tiny piece of it.
So let’s start simple. Let’s break down what cruising actually is, why it’s so popular, and how to figure out whether it might be right for you.
This is the first post in a series where I’ll walk you through the basics, debunk myths, and help you choose the cruise style that fits your personality, pace, and travel goals.
🚢 What Even Is a Cruise? (Yes, I’m serious)
Let’s make this simple: a cruise is like a floating hotel that moves. That’s it. You unpack once, and you see the world.
But depending on the type of cruise you choose, that “floating hotel” might feel like:
A resort
A boutique inn
A safari lodge
A cultural immersion trip
A luxury retreat
A basecamp for adventure
A destination
This is why cruising is so misunderstood — people assume all ships are the same we all know they’re thinking mega-liners. They’re not even close.
🌍 The Three Main Types of Cruises (And Why They’re So Different)
1. Ocean Cruises
Think big ships, small ships or luxury yachts, lots of dining options, entertainment, nightlife, family-friendly and adults only options, and a mix of travelers. Just like a hotel, right? Perfect for: first‑timers, families, couples, groups, people who want variety.
2. River Cruises
Smaller, intimate ships, slower pace, culture‑focused itineraries, and docking right in the heart of cities. Imagine always being surrounded by country-side and beautiful scenery at every point of the journey. Perfect for: foodies, history lovers, adults, travelers who want depth over crowds.
3. Expedition Cruises
Small ships built for adventure that take you to the most remote destinations of the world — think Antarctica, the Arctic, the Galápagos. Often include expert guides, wildlife encounters, and educational programs offering a once-in-a-lifetime experience. Perfect for: nature lovers, photographers, bucket‑list travelers, explorers.
Each one offers a completely different experience. Choosing the right type is the key to loving your journey.
🧭 Why People Love Cruising (Even If They Didn’t Expect To)
Here’s what I’ve seen again and again from travelers, including myself:
They love waking up somewhere new every day
They love seeing multiple countries and destinations with one set of flights and only having to unpack once (seriously guys, that’s a huge flex!)
They love not having to plan every detail
They love the mix of relaxation and exploration
They love the value (yes, value — more on that in a future post)
They love the community and connection onboard
They love the up close and personal view of the sunrise and sunset on the horizon (or maybe that’s just me)
Cruising takes the stress out of travel without taking away the adventure.
🏨 Cruise vs. Hotel: The Simplest Comparison
A hotel gives you one destination that you can really explore in depth. A cruise gives you the option to see multiple destinations on the same itinerary while waking up in a new city every day.
A hotel gives you a room. A cruise gives you a room, entertainment, food, transportation, and activities — all in one place. And, if you’re lucky, it’s all included!
It’s not that one is better than the other. They’re just different tools for different types of trips.
Here’s what I always suggest to travelers because both of these types of people exist. If you’re going somewhere new, go on the cruise first to explore many countries or cities at once and see which one gives you butterflies. On the next trip, go back to that destination that gave you butterflies at a hotel and spend more time in the location to explore further.
💬 Why I’m Writing This Series
After working for a cruise company, I know there is a huge buzz around cruising right now. If you’re still living on fears that you had 20 years ago, you’re missing out on something great. Because cruising has changed, it’s evolved, it’s got a solution for every type of traveler.
And then it dawned on me, it’s not that people dislike cruising—it’s just that people don’t understand it yet.
So, this series will break it all down in a way that’s simple, honest, and helpful. No jargon. No sales pitch. Just real insight from someone who has the insight.
🌟 What’s Coming Next in the Series
Here’s what I’ll cover in upcoming posts:
Ocean vs. River vs. Expedition: How to Choose the Right One
Cruising Myths, Debunked
The Value of Cruising
How to Pick the Perfect Itinerary
Cruising vs. Land Travel: Which One Fits Your Style
And more — because trust me, I’ve got stories.
Most Friends Can’t Coordinate Dinner While Mine Plan International Trips
A celebration of the chaotic, committed, passport‑ready friendships
Most friend groups can’t even agree on a dinner reservation. Someone’s “not doing carbs,” someone else “already ate,” someone’s running late, someone can’t afford the venue and someone mysteriously disappears the moment the words Where should we go hit the chat.
Meanwhile, my friend group? We’re out here planning international trips like it’s our part‑time job. Oh wait, it technically is my job so I suppose it helps when you have one in the friend group always planting the seed.
While other groups are still debating sushi vs. tacos, we’re comparing flight prices, comparing outfits, dropping hotel stay links, and casually saying things like, “Should we just do Turks & Caicos?” We don’t pick a restaurant — we pick a country.
And honestly? I’m so proud of us.
It’s a big enough challenge for me to get a boyfriend to commit to a trip. Actually, it’s just challenging to get a man to commit to plans on a Saturday. These men are clearly part of the other friend groups who can’t even plan dinner.
Getting a group of adults to commit to anything — let alone a trip that requires PTO, passports, and a full itinerary — is nothing short of miraculous. It’s diplomacy. It’s logistics. It’s blind optimism. It’s friendship at its highest difficulty setting.
What’s even more impressive is the diversity of our friend group all being in different places in our lives to come together and make it happen. Some are married long term, some are newlyweds that we’ve known since the beginning of their love story, some are divorced, some are newly engaged and some of us are as single as our passports are stamped. But, it just works.
And when it works? When the trip actually makes it out of the group chat? It becomes the kind of memory that bonds you for life. 📱
When the Trip Actually Makes It Out of the Group Chat
There’s a moment — a sacred, almost spiritual moment — when a group trip crosses the threshold from chaotic fantasy to actual reality. It’s when the group chat shifts from memes and unhinged voice notes to… logistics. Real logistics. The kind that require calendars, commitment, and courage.
It always starts with one brave soul typing the words that change everything:
“Okay, but seriously… are we doing this.”
Suddenly, everyone plays into a role. You have the friend who always asks to go on trips with you but will never commit. They are the ones that watch but go silent. You have the core group that you know will always say “count me in” because we can’t bear the FOMO that will come from missing out on the memories from another international debauchery. You have the friends who are already looking up flights and hotels before we even decide where we’re going and the others who just say “tell me what to book” and just show up.
And then it happens. The moment that separates the dreamers from the doers:
Someone finally books their flight.
That’s the point of no return. That’s when the trip officially escapes the gravitational pull of the group chat. That’s when everyone else has to either commit or admit they were never serious.
If you’re lucky, your friend group has a points guy who travels so much for work that he accumulates the highest level of status and invites everyone on his itinerary to book business class for under $200 per person. If your friend group doesn’t have that guy, start looking for one.
And when the confirmations start rolling in — seat selections, hotel reservations, business-lounge access, passport renewals — you realize something magical:
This isn’t just a trip anymore. It’s a collective triumph.
A logistical miracle. A testament to the fact that your friend group is built different.
🌍 We’re Not Just Friends — We’re a Travel Task Force
Every group has roles, and ours are elite:
The Planner (this is usually me as the Travel Industry hook up)
The Points Guy
The Flight Deal Hunter
The Spreadsheet Queen
The “I’ll Go Anywhere” Wildcard
The Boat Guy (yes, our trips often involve being on a boat)
The Human Yelp Review
The One Who Packs Like They’re Fleeing the Country
The One Who Packs 20 Minutes Before Leaving for the Airport
Together, we’re unstoppable. Separately, we’re… well, still unstoppable, but with less shared luggage.
🧳 We Don’t Just Travel — We Commit
We’ve mastered the art of:
Coordinating PTO like a synchronized swim team
Booking flights at 2 a.m. because “the price dropped $14”
Pretending we’ll wake up early to journal and drink water
Packing all brand new outfits we bought for the trip that we absolutely will not wear but may gift to our trip mates
Fixing our schedules so that we never miss a sunset
Creating itineraries that are 40% realistic and 60% delusion
And somehow, it all works.
Because the moment we step off that plane — sleep‑deprived, over‑packed, possibly over-stimulated and buzzing with excitement — everything clicks. The chaos becomes comedy. The planning becomes payoff. The group chat becomes a living, breathing adventure and our base of sharing the hilarious or oh-so-cute photos we took of each other.
🌄 We Collect Memories, Not Just Menus
Some friend groups bond over brunch. Ours bond over:
Getting lost in foreign cities
Catching boats and daily sunsets
Themed nights and matching outfits for the cutest photos
Laughing until we cry while pregaming in someone’s hotel room
Sharing chargers, snacks, beverages and emotional support
Turning every mishap into a story we’ll tell forever
We don’t just go out to dinner — we go out into the world.
And that’s the difference.
💛 Because These Are the Friendships Worth Traveling For
Anyone can show up for a meal. But showing up for a passport‑stamped, time‑zone‑crossing, memory‑making adventure? That’s a different level of friendship. That’s family.
It’s commitment. It’s chaos. It’s love. It’s choosing each other — not just for a night out, but for a whole experience.
Most friend groups can’t even plan a trip to dinner. Mine plans international trips. And honestly? I wouldn’t trade them for anything. From Newport, to Nashville, to Cabo, to Las Vegas, to Tulum, to London and Paris, to the Mediterranean, to Miami, to Turks & Caicos and the Bahamas, I can’t wait to see where the next adventure takes us and the memories that come along the way.
I Hope Someday Someone Looks at Me the Way I Look at a Travel Brochure
I always say I hope someday a man looks at me the way I look at a travel brochure — and if you know me, you know that’s saying a lot. Because when I look at a travel brochure, my whole demeanor lights up. My eyes soften, my shoulders relax, and my whole body leans in like I’m falling in love with possibility itself.
And maybe that’s because I don’t just read travel brochures. I create them for a living.
I can spend my days choosing the perfect photos, writing the words that make people dream, and curating the kind of moments that make someone whisper, “I need to be there.” I know what it looks like when something is crafted with passion and intention — when every detail is chosen to spark excitement, curiosity, and hope. I aim to create a sense of FOMO—you can’t live without experiencing something so beautiful and powerful.
Somewhere along the way, I realized: That’s the same energy and reaction I want in love.
✈️ Travel Has Become the Great Love Story of My Life
Travel has never disappointed me the way dating has recently. Travel shows up. Travel makes plans. Travel gives me butterflies and excitement before I even arrive.
When I’m creating a travel brochure, I’m imagining the best version of a place — the golden hour glow, the hidden corners, the exquisite sunsets, the magic that doesn’t always show up on the first page. I give destinations the kind of attention and admiration that most people reserve for relationships. I study them. I celebrate them. I’m in awe of their beauty before I ever step foot there.
And honestly? I deserve someone who sees me with that same wonder.
🌍 What a Travel Brochure Taught Me About Love
A travel brochure is full of intention. It’s curated. It’s thoughtful. It’s an invitation.
And that’s what I want from a partner — someone who looks at me with curiosity, excitement, and a genuine desire to explore who I am.
Not someone who takes 48 hours to respond. Not someone who can’t plan a date but expects me to plan my entire emotional availability around them. Not someone who gives me the bare minimum and calls it effort.
If I can create a brochure that makes strangers want to cross oceans, then surely someone out there can bring that same energy to loving me.
💅 I Want to Be Someone’s Dream Destination
I want to be someone’s dream destination — not a layover, not a quick weekender, not a “maybe someday.” I want to be the place someone circles in their mind the way I circle a potential next vacation spot in my brochure: with excitement, curiosity, and the quiet certainty that something unforgettable is waiting there.
I want someone who sees me the way I see a new city or a beautiful new resort — full of potential, full of stories, full of reasons to stay a little longer. When I arrive somewhere new, I don’t rush through it. I take my time. I wander. I pay attention. I let myself fall in love with the details most people overlook. That’s the kind of energy I want coming my way.
Someone who studies the details — the way my laugh sounds when I’m genuinely happy, the way my eyes light up when I talk about a place I’m passionate about, the way I soften when I feel safe. Someone who’s excited to discover the hidden gems — the quirks, the layers, the parts of me that don’t show up on the first page. Someone who doesn’t rush the experience but also doesn’t take it for granted — who understands that the best things unfold slowly, intentionally, and with presence.
And most of all, someone who chooses me with intention — the way I choose every photo, every headline, every word in the brochures I create. I craft. I curate. I imagine the experience someone will have when they step into that world I’ve built. I want someone who sees me with that same care, that same thoughtfulness, that same desire to explore what’s possible.
🧳 Until Then, I’ll Keep Loving the World
Until someone looks at me with that same spark, I’ll keep doing what I do best: Falling in love with the world.
One brochure. One boarding pass. One breathtaking moment at a time.
Because if travel is the great love story of my life, I’m not complaining. It’s shown me beauty, adventure, and versions of myself I never would’ve met otherwise.
And maybe — just maybe — the right person will find me the same way I find my favorite destinations: By being in the right place at the right time.
If this story made you smile, nod, or whisper “same,” then you’re exactly who I write for. Travel has a way of showing us the love, excitement, and intention we wish people would give us — and I’m here to celebrate every version of that journey.
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✨ Is Travel Like Finding Your Soulmate? It’s All About Being at the Right Place at the Right Time
I was rewatching an old episode of Sex and the City when Carrie asked if timing is everything when it comes to finding a soulmate. Is every second of our lives controlled by fate? Or is life just a series of random occurrences?
Naturally, this sent me into a spiral — because if timing matters in love, does it also matter when it comes to travel? If I hadn’t postponed a trip… If my flight hadn’t been delayed two hours… If I’d chosen a different weekend entirely…
Would the trip have been different? Would my life be different? Would I be different?
Then I got to thinking — which is always dangerous — and I landed on a conclusion that feels both unhinged and deeply poetic: Travel might be the closest thing we have to finding a soulmate.
Not in the “I fell in love with a man named Luca on a Vespa in Rome” way (although if that happens, please contact me immediately). I mean in the way that travel, like soulmates, shows up when you need it, changes you when you’re ready, and makes absolutely no sense until suddenly it does.
Some people believe soulmates are written in the stars. I believe they might be written in your passport.
Let’s unpack this.
🌍 Travel Finds You When You Need It Most
You know how people say you meet “the one” when you’re not looking? Travel works the same way.
Some of my best trips weren’t planned. They were spontaneous, chaotic, and full of moments that felt like the universe nudging me forward.
It’s like the universe said, “Sweetie, you’re spiraling. Here’s a cheap flight to London. Go reset.”
So, I did.
Travel arrives the same way a soulmate does — unexpectedly, and if you’re lucky, right on time.
✈️ Timing Is Everything (In Love and in Layovers)
You can visit the same city twice and have two completely different experiences. You can meet the same person twice and feel something entirely new.
Just like finding your soulmate, travel is all about timing:
who you are when you arrive
what you’re carrying emotionally
what you’re ready to let go of
what you’re open to discovering
The right place at the wrong time feels off.
I once went to a tiny, charming island in Exuma, Bahamas — it was a complete disaster. Everything possible went wrong and ended with a full-blown melt down.
I swore I’d never go back.
But a couple years later, the opportunity came again and I felt I owed it to myself to redo my experience. And this time, everything aligned. It was a perfect trip from a flight upgrade, to multiple celebrity sightings, checked off a bucket list item going to see the swimming pigs, and so much more.
Same place. Different timing. Completely different experience.
The right place at the right time feels like magic.
💫 You Have to Be Open to the Unexpected
Some of the best travel moments happen when you ditch the plan or ditch the expectations. Some of the best relationships happen when you ditch the checklist.
I’ve had trips where:
I showed up to a city I knew nothing about and ended up in a 5-star cliffside resort in a city built out of fairy chimneys and caves
a wrong turn led to the best meal of my life
a missed tour led to everlasting memories involving the best jazz music you’ll ever hear with new friends
a spontaneous “why not” led to me leading an 8-hour tour in Ireland with zero experience
a random conversation shifted my entire perspective
Travel rewards openness. So do soulmates.
You can’t script the magic — you just have to show up for it.
💛 Both Teach You Who You Really Are
Travel shows you who you are when no one knows you. Soulmates show you who you are when someone finally sees you.
Both experiences:
stretch you — because growth never happens in your comfort zone
challenge you — because you can’t evolve without friction
soften you — because vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness
reveal you — because the real you shows up when you’re unguarded
Travel teaches you who you are when you’re alone. Soulmates teach you who you are when you’re loved.
And somewhere in the overlap — in the courage, the curiosity, the softness, the honesty — you meet the truest version of yourself.
🌙 Some Places (and People) Feel Like Fate
There are cities that feel familiar the moment you land. There are people who feel familiar the moment you meet.
You don’t know why. You don’t question it. You just feel it.
I went to Spain, and it instantly felt like home. I don’t speak much Spanish, but I felt like I could move there and start a life for myself. This place made me feel alive like my first great love.
Maybe it’s déjà vu. Maybe it’s intuition. Maybe it’s the universe winking at you.
Some places imprint on you the same way certain people do — quietly, deeply, permanently.
🌺 Not Every Place Is “The One” — And That’s Okay
Just like dating, not every destination is life‑changing.
Some trips are fun but forgettable. Some are chaotic but educational. Some are healing. Some are transitional. Some you don’t appreciate until they’re gone.
But every single one teaches you something:
what you want
what you don’t
what you’re ready for
what you’re done tolerating
Travel is basically the dating app of self‑discovery — except the views are better and no one says “sorry, I’m bad at texting.”
🌅 When It’s Right, You Just Know
There are places where everything clicks:
the energy
the people
the food
the version of yourself that shows up there
You feel grounded and alive at the same time. You feel like you belong without trying. You feel like you could move there tomorrow and start a new life.
That’s Spain for me.
That’s how soulmates feel too — effortless, aligned, and strangely inevitable.
✨ Maybe the Real Soulmate Is the Journey
Here’s the plot twist:
Maybe the soulmate isn’t a person or a place. Maybe it’s the version of yourself you meet along the way.
Travel becomes the love story. You become the main character. And the world becomes the partner that keeps showing up for you.
Right Place. Right Time. Right You.
I Sat on More Planes Than Men Last Year — And Honestly, Thank God
Some people measure their year or success in relationships, milestones, or personal growth. I like to measure mine in boarding passes.
Last year, I sat on more planes than men — and before you feel bad for me or judge me on this, don’t. If I had said this 5 years ago when I thought I had life figured out, I most definitely would not be admitting this publicly out of shame or embarrassment. In reality, it was the best accidental life choice I’ve ever made. I wasn’t lonely. I wasn’t heartbroken. I wasn’t “focusing on myself” in that sad, post‑breakup way. I was thriving. I was glowing. I was collecting passport stamps last year like they were Labubus. I was genuinely the happiest I had been in a while. Not a single relationship yet living the dream.
Because while men were sending mixed signals, airplanes were sending me confirmation emails. While men were inconsistent, flights were on time (well… some of them). And while men were asking “wyd,” airports were asking, “wyltu” (would you like to upgrade). While men found a way to ruin my day before 9am, I chose to board flights off to my next adventure at 9am instead. It’s ironic that the excitement I get when the staff crew shows up for the flight is nearly the same level of excitement I get when a situationship actually shows up to something.
I got tired of getting excited for the bare minimum when there is a world of excitement to explore out there. I don’t remember the last time a man made me light up with excitement the way the Eiffel Tower did when I saw it light up at night. Now I’m supposed to get excited when a man confirms plans on a Saturday?
Travel Gave Me What Dating Used To But Doesn’t Anymore
Dating last year felt like a series of plot twists written by a bored intern or a group project where I did all the work but still failed. I didn’t want to be bothered by the drama, inconsistency and the inability to make plans. Travel, on the other hand, gave me:
clarity
excitement
adventure
peace
and an excuse to buy cute outfits (spoiler: it used to be for men!)
Men gave me… well, mostly anxiety and a reason to drink. 🍷
Every time a situationship fizzled, I booked a flight. Every time someone said “I’m not ready for something serious,” I said “Perfect, because I’m not ready to stay in this city.” If I ever felt stuck, I got myself unstuck real quickly at 30,000 feet.
Travel became my rebound, my therapist, and my escape plan all in one.
I Found Myself in Airports, Not Relationships
Airports became my happy place. Not because they’re relaxing or always reliable (because they’re not), but because they represent possibility and new experiences.
When you’re walking through a terminal alone with your carry‑on and your iced coffee, you feel like the main character. You’re not waiting for someone to choose you — you’re choosing yourself.
I learned more about myself wandering foreign streets alone than I ever learned from a man who couldn’t decide if he liked me or just liked the attention. I found confidence in navigating new places. I found joy in being alone. I found peace in knowing I don’t need a partner to live a full, exciting life.
And somewhere between Gate A12 and Gate C7, I realized something important: I’d rather be single and stamped than cuffed and miserable.
🧳 Travel Filled My Life With Stories — Not Excuses
Men gave me excuses: “I’m busy.” “I’m confused.” “I’m not ready.” “My ex came back.” “My phone died for three days.”
Travel gave me stories: “I got lost in Paris and found the best bakery.” “I met a couple on the cruise who became lifelong friends.” “I watched the sunrise in a place I’d never been.” “I tried something new and didn’t die.”
“I remembered who I am.”
One of those lists is worth writing home about. The other went in the friend group chat for comedic relief to which they said “you should write a blog and share your dating experiences.” So, here we are.
💛 Choosing Planes Over Men Wasn’t Avoidance — It Was Alignment
I didn’t travel because I was running away from love. I traveled because I was running toward myself.
I wanted adventure. I wanted growth. I wanted to feel alive after consistently being disappointed by what was waiting for me at home.
I wanted to stop shrinking myself for people who couldn’t meet me halfway.
And the truth is, when you stop waiting for someone to join you, you start living the life you actually want. If a man wants to be in my life, he’s going to have to keep up — emotionally, mentally, and maybe even at the airport. Maybe I’ll meet him on the journey to my next destination or at the hotel bar when we arrive. You never know who is around the corner, especially when you’re going places!
Because last year taught me something I’ll never forget:
A boarding pass will never break your heart.
And if I end up sitting on more planes than men again this year—Well… that sounds like a win to me.
✈️ This Year, I’m Still Choosing Flights Over Fights
Will I date again? Sure. Will I lower my standards? Absolutely not. Will I stop traveling? Not a chance. And if I’m lucky, maybe this will be the year I catch flights and feels.
What Beach is Right For You
Grace Bay, Turks & Caicos
(Because Not All Beaches — or Travelers — Are Created Equal)
Having worked in travel for most of my career—primarily in tropical destinations—I often get asked what the best beach is.
Some people think “a beach is a beach,” but those people have clearly never tried to relax on a windy coastline while being pelted with sand like a human exfoliation treatment. Beaches have personalities. Attitudes. Vibes. And choosing the wrong one can turn your dream vacation into a “why did I do this to myself” moment.
So let’s figure out which beach is actually right for you — based on your travel style, your energy, and your tolerance for chaos.
🏖️ If you want powdery-white sand with turquoise waters:
Turks & Caicos — Grace Bay
Arguably my favorite beach spanning the world, Grace Bay frequently tops “world’s best beach” lists from travel magazines and publications. Spanning 7 – 12 miles, there’s no shortage of space to find your quiet beach spot, even during peak season. The sand is famously fine and soft—often compared to powder while the bay is naturally sheltered by a barrier reef offshore, which keeps waves gentle and the water remarkably clear.
Grace Bay may just be the closest thing to a “perfect beach” with:
Stunning views
Relaxing atmosphere
Warm, gentle water
Clean, uncrowded stretches of sand
Picture‑perfect sunsets
Tip: If you’re fortunate to stay in a resort located on Grace Bay, pay for an upgrade to ocean view. I promise you will regret not waking up to the calm turquoise waves every morning when you sip your coffee on your balcony as much as you would regret going all the way to Tahiti and not staying in an over-the-water bungalow. Pay for the ocean view. Every time.
🍹 If you want beach + nightlife + “I might make questionable decisions”:
Spain — Ibiza
If you want energy and entertainment, Ibiza is unmatched.
Globally known as the top party destination in Europe, Ibiza perfectly blends world‑class DJs and nightlife lovers with legendary beach clubs and pool parties, creating a lively daytime‑to‑nighttime atmosphere.
Ibiza has a beach for everyone. Enjoy hidden coves and rugged coastlines with beautiful turquoise waters or long stretches of calm beach.
Perfect for you if:
you love a good beach club
you want sun and chaos
you enjoy meeting strangers who become your best friends for 48 hours
Tip: The island is small, so you can visit multiple beaches in a single day—each with a different vibe.
🌺 If you want romance, beauty, and “I’m the main character” energy:
French Polynesia — Bora Bora
This is the beach you go to when you want to feel like you’re starring in your own honeymoon, even if you’re single. The water is so blue it looks filtered. The bungalows are so pretty you’ll question your entire life choices.
Perfect for you if:
you want luxury
you want serenity
you want to dramatically stare into the ocean and reflect on your life
you want dramatic sunsets
Also perfect for couples, but honestly, go alone — it’s still magical if you seek adventure mixed with serenity and luxury.
🐠 If you want adventure and snorkeling:
Australia — Great Barrier Reef
This is for the traveler who wants to do all the things, not just tan. You’ll snorkel. You’ll dive. You’ll see fish that look like they were designed by a toddler with a crayon box.
Perfect for you if:
you get bored lying still
you want wildlife
you want to brag about your trip for the next decade
Tip: If you want to get more attention from the wildlife, wear a bright-colored swimsuit. Fish are more genuinely curious about you if you look like part of the reef. But don’t touch anything… Australia’s creatures are beautiful but dramatic.
🐬 If you want turquoise water, boat days, and “I’m living my best life” energy:
Bahamas — Exuma
Exuma is the definition of “postcard perfect.” The water is neon turquoise, some of the clearest water in the world. The sand is white. The vibe is “I’m on a boat and I’m never going home.”
Perfect for you if:
you want to swim with pigs
you want boat days to go island hopping
you want to feel like you have your own private beach, especially in the smaller cays
you want to find shallow sandbars, reefs, blue holes and explore underwater caves
you want beaches that look fake because they’re too perfect
Tip: Plan to spend at least one day on a boat — it’s the single best way to experience what makes the islands extraordinary. Exuma is all about shallow sandbars, hidden coves, and tiny cays you can only reach by boat, so a day trip opens up the real magic of the region. Like your budget, Exuma isn’t meant to be spent all in one place.
🌊 If you want dramatic cliffs, cinematic views, and “I’m in a movie” vibes:
Santorini, Greece — Black Sand, Red Sand, and Caldera Magic
If you’re questioning why Santorini made the list, I understand Santorini isn’t your typical beach destination — it’s the beach’s glamorous, dramatic, slightly mysterious cousin. The cliffs here don’t just rise; they perform. Whitewashed buildings spill down the caldera like they’re posing for a postcard, and the sunsets are so theatrical they deserve their own IMDb page.
But here’s the twist: Santorini’s beaches are unique—volcanic, bold, and unlike anything you’ve seen.
Perissa & Perivolos : These are the famous black‑sand beaches, created by ancient volcanic eruptions. The sand gets hot (like, “I’m doing a fire‑walk challenge” hot), but the vibe is unmatched — beach clubs, deep blue water, and a backdrop that looks like a movie set.
Red Beach: This one is straight out of a sci‑fi film. Rust‑colored cliffs. Deep red sand. Water that glows against the rock. It’s dramatic in the best way — the kind of place where you take a photo and people assume it’s edited.
Kamari Beach: Another black‑sand beauty, but with a more relaxed, family‑friendly vibe. Think loungers, tavernas, and that “I could stay here all day” energy.
Perfect for you if:
you want beaches that feel different
you love a dramatic backdrop
you want photos that look like they belong in a travel magazine
you enjoy a mix of cliffside luxury and unique shoreline
Santorini is the place where you can spend the morning tanning on black sand, the afternoon exploring red cliffs, and the evening watching the sun melt into the caldera like it’s performing just for you.
It’s romantic. It’s iconic. It’s cinematic.
And yes — it absolutely counts as a unique beach destination.
🌺 If you want culture, flavor, and beach bliss all in one place:
Jamaica — Seven Mile Beach, Negril
If you want a beach that comes with soul, rhythm, and personality, Jamaica is the destination. Seven Mile Beach isn’t just a stretch of sand — it’s a whole mood. Powder‑soft sand, turquoise water, reggae floating through the air, and sunsets so fiery they look like the sky is showing off.
But what makes Jamaica special isn’t just the beach — it’s the culture that wraps around you the moment you arrive.
You’ll hear music everywhere. You’ll taste flavors that ruin all other jerk chicken for you. You’ll meet people who make you feel like you’ve been friends for years.
You’ll feel the island’s heartbeat in everything — the food, the music, the energy, the warmth.
Perfect for you if:
you want a beach with personality, not just pretty views
you love music, dancing, and a little island spice
you want culture woven into every moment
you want to float in turquoise water by day and listen to live reggae by night
Seven Mile Beach gives you the best of both worlds: calm, dreamy beach days and vibrant, soulful nights. You can snorkel, sip rum punch, eat fresh seafood with your toes in the sand, and then wander into a beach bar where someone is singing Bob Marley under the stars.
It’s warm. It’s lively. It’s unforgettable. And it’s the perfect pick for anyone who wants their beach vacation to feel alive.
🧘♀️ If you want spiritual, calm, “I’m finding myself” energy:
Maldives
The Maldives is the ultimate “no one can reach me, I’m going off the grid” destination. Picture overwater villas, endless turquoise water, and a level of quiet so pure you can hear your own heartbeat. It’s peaceful in a way that feels luxurious — like the universe is giving you a private retreat.
This is where you go when you want to disappear from the world and reemerge as your best self.
You’ll float in warm, clear water. You’ll journal on your deck with nothing but ocean around you. You’ll watch the sunset from a hammock and suddenly understand why people say the Maldives changes you.
Perfect for you if:
you want total peace and privacy
you want to disconnect from everything
you want a beach that feels like a sanctuary
you want to heal in style
The Maldives is serene, dreamy, and deeply restorative — the kind of place where you remember who you are.
🌺 If you want adventure, nature, and “I’m living inside a postcard” energy:
Kauai, Hawaii — Hanalei Bay
Kauai is the kind of place that makes you believe the Earth has favorite children — and Hanalei Bay is clearly one of them. This isn’t just a beach; it’s a full‑body experience. Lush mountains wrap around a crescent of golden sand, waterfalls spill down cliffs like nature’s jewelry, and the whole scene looks like it was designed by a director who said, “Make it more breathtaking.”
Hanalei Bay is where you go when you want your beach day with a side of adventure. You can paddleboard in calm morning water, surf gentle waves by afternoon, and wander into town for shaved ice and fresh poke when you need a break. And if you’re feeling bold, the nearby trails and lookouts will absolutely deliver those iconic moments.
Perfect for you if:
you want beaches surrounded by lush, cinematic scenery
you love a mix of relaxation and adventure
you want to snorkel, paddleboard, or hike between beach naps
you want nature to be the main character
Kauai gives you that rare combination of beauty + adventure + serenity. It’s peaceful without being boring, wild without being overwhelming, and stunning in a way that makes you consider canceling your return flight.
It’s the kind of place where you don’t just take photos — you take deep breaths.
🌞 Final Thoughts: Your Perfect Beach Is Out There
At the end of the day, the right beach isn’t just about sand or water — it’s about the version of you that shows up there. Maybe you’re craving adventure. Maybe you want culture and connection. Maybe you need a reset, a romance, a dramatic view, or a moment that reminds you how big and beautiful the world can be.
There’s a beach for every mood, every chapter, every version of yourself you’re still becoming.
Whether you end up floating in Maldives-blue water, wandering Kauai’s lush coastline, dancing on Jamaica’s Seven Mile Beach, or watching the sun melt into the caldera in Santorini, the right place has a way of finding you when you need it most.
Let the ocean pull you exactly where you’re meant to go. Your perfect beach — and your next story — is waiting.
Solo Travel or Bust
Solo Travel or Bust: Why Going Alone Might Be the Most Empowering Thing You Ever Do
There comes a moment in every woman’s life when she realizes she has two choices: wait for everyone else to get their schedules, finances, and emotional stability together… or just book the trip for yourself. This is where Solo Travel or Bust is born — not from fearlessness, but from the refusal to put your life on hold for people who can’t commit to brunch, let alone Bali.
Solo travel isn’t just a trend. It’s a movement. A mindset. A declaration that your joy, your growth, and your experiences are too important to delay. And if you’ve ever felt the itch to book a flight alone, consider this your sign to do it.
💛Why Solo Travel Is the Ultimate Power Move
1. You Stop Waiting for Permission
Group chats are where travel plans often go to die. Someone’s broke, someone’s pregnant, someone is waiting to get their work schedule, someone is waiting to see who else confirms first, and someone’s boyfriend suddenly has a lot of opinions.
Solo travel removes the committee. You want to go? You just go. You want to leave tomorrow? Pack the bag. You want to spend three hours in a museum or skip it entirely? Don’t need to check in with anyone.
It’s freedom in its purest form.
2. You Learn What You Actually Like
When you travel with others, you compromise — on food, activities, pace, even sleep schedules. When you travel alone, you discover your real preferences:
Are you a sunrise hiker or a sleep‑in‑til‑10 girl
Do you prefer street food or white‑tablecloth dining
Do you want to sit on a beach and party all day or wake up early for a full day of excursions
Do you want to wander aimlessly or plan every hour
Solo travel is the equivalent of dating yourself… except you actually get to pick the restaurant.
3. You Become the Main Character
There’s something cinematic about walking through a new city alone with your headphones in. You’re not lonely — you’re mysterious. You’re not lost — you’re exploring. You’re not alone — you’re in your independent‑woman era. You get to write your very own Emily in Paris story, and hopefully it comes with a Gabriel.
Solo travel gives you the kind of confidence that doesn’t come from compliments or validation. It comes from proving to yourself that you can handle anything.
4. You Open Yourself Up to Meeting Locals and other Travelers Alike
I think one of the biggest myths about solo travel is that it’s going to feel lonely. I think many don’t realize just how social solo travel can be. When you’re alone, you naturally become more open, more approachable, and more curious about the people around you. You’re not tucked into a friend group bubble — you’re out in the world, and the world responds.
You might meet another group traveling who takes you in as their own and create a lifelong friendship. You may meet a local bartender at this trendy bar you passed while wanderlusting the streets on your own. Your driver to the hotel may give you this great life advice and you still talk about him today. The possibilities are endless.
5. Unexpected Opportunities Find You More Easily
One of the most underrated parts of solo travel is how many unexpected, serendipitous opportunities show up when you’re not tied to anyone else’s plans. When you’re alone, your schedule is flexible, your energy is open, and the universe seems to slide little surprises your way.
You end up saying yes to things you never would’ve considered at home. One of my favorite travel stories is when I ended up hosting an 8-hour trip to the Cliffs of Moher in Ireland over a very big misunderstanding. I played along and just went with the flow—otherwise I would not have made it on the trip, especially if I had a plus one!
Other examples that may inspire you:
· A last‑minute invite to a sunset boat ride
· A cooking class you stumble into because you smelled garlic and followed your instincts
· A local festival you didn’t know existed
· A spontaneous day trip with people you met an hour ago
· A hidden beach a taxi driver insists you “have to see”
· A job lead, creative idea, or life‑changing conversation that happens because you sat next to the right person
Solo travel teaches you to stay open, curious, and willing to pivot.
💛 The Emotional Benefits No One Talks About
You Build Trust With Yourself
When you navigate a foreign place alone, you learn to rely on your instincts. You make decisions without second‑guessing. You become your own safety net — and that’s powerful.
You Heal Faster
Breakups, burnout, friendship fallouts — solo travel has a way of clearing emotional clutter. There’s something about being far from home that makes everything feel lighter, less permanent, less overwhelming.
You Become Comfortable With Your Own Company
Silence stops feeling scary. Alone stops feeling lonely. You realize you’re actually pretty great to hang out with. This is how you learn to fall in love with yourself.
The Fears Are Real — But So Are the Solutions
“What if something goes wrong”
Things go wrong at home too. The difference is: you’re capable everywhere.
“Won’t I feel awkward eating alone”
Only for the first five minutes. Then you realize no one cares — and you start to enjoy it.
Is it safe?
With research, awareness, and common sense, solo travel can be incredibly safe. Women do it every day. If you’re struggling with this, perhaps try somewhere close first to see how it feels. If you felt comfortable navigating on your own, go somewhere further next time.
The Truth: Solo Travel Changes You
You come home a different person. More confident. More grounded. More aware of what you want and what you deserve.
You stop shrinking yourself. You stop waiting for others. You stop apologizing for wanting more.
Solo travel teaches you that the world is big, life is short, and you are capable of far more than you ever gave yourself credit for.
✈️ Girl Math: The Unofficial Financial Philosophy Powering Women’s Travel Trips
Girls trip to Tulum
If you’ve ever justified a plane ticket because “future me deserves this,” or declared that a hotel upgrade is “basically free” when split four ways, congratulations — you’re already fluent in Girl Math, the playful, logic system that makes travel feel more joyful and a lot less guilt‑ridden.
Girl Math didn’t appear out of nowhere. It grew out of a generation of women where everything — housing, groceries, travel, even basic fun — costs more than it ever has. And let’s be honest—we’re no longer marrying men to help out with our financial situation. It’s our way of saying: If the world is going to financially screw me anyway, I’m at least going to find a loophole to enjoy where I can.
Girl Math isn’t about ignoring financial responsibility. It’s about reframing spending in a way that aligns with how women actually experience travel: socially, emotionally, and with a healthy dose of humor. And honestly, it works.
Let’s break down how Girl Math shows up on female or solo travel trips — and why it makes those trips even better.
💄 1. The Pre‑Trip Purchases That Don’t Count
According to Girl Math, anything you buy before the trip is an investment in the experience — and therefore not a real expense.
New swimsuit? “I’ll wear it for multiple trips and summers to come, so it’s basically free.”
Matching vacation outfits? “Memories and the cute photos are priceless.”
New luggage? “Purchasing a new carry-on saves me time and money from checking in.”
The logic isn’t about denial; it’s about acknowledging that preparation is part of the fun. Women often bond through planning, and Girl Math turns that bonding into a guilt‑free zone.
👗 2. The “Save Here, Splurge There” Equation
Girl Math thrives on balance — or at least the illusion of it. Nowhere is this more obvious than in the way women prep for travel. We’ll hunt down $12 SHEIN dresses, $6 sunglasses, and a $9 bikini set… all while boarding a $10,000 vacation like it’s nothing.
Because in Girl Math, outfits are temporary, but the experiences are forever.
It’s not hypocrisy. It’s prioritization.
Cheap outfits = “I’m being financially responsible.”
Expensive trip = “I’m investing in my happiness.”
A once‑in‑a‑lifetime excursion = “You can’t put a price on memories.”
We want to look good, but we want to feel even better — and that feeling comes from the trip itself. The laughter, the late nights, the beach days, the inside jokes, the photos we’ll scroll through for years. The clothes are just props; the moments are the main event.
Girl Math says: If I save money on the little things, I’ve earned the right to splurge on the big things.
🧮 3. Cost Per Wear… But Make It Travel
Girl Math loves a good cost‑per‑use calculation. On trips, this becomes cost‑per‑memory.
A $200 excursion? If you talk about it for the next five years, that’s practically pennies per emotional return.
A $50 beach hat? If it appears in 12 photos, the cost per Instagram moment is unbeatable.
A new $2,000 Louis Vuitton bag that I’ve been obsessing over? I will be wearing it for life and I saved $400 getting it tax-free overseas! And the stories that will surround this special purchase… priceless. It’s not just a bag, but the bag I got at the flagship, two-story Louis Vuitton store in Paris strolling along the Champs-Elysees.
Travel isn’t just about the activity — it’s about the story you’ll tell later. Girl Math simply quantifies that truth.
👯 4. Splitting Costs = Everything Is Cheaper
One of the greatest gifts of women’s group travel is the communal approach to spending.
A $400 villa split among six friends? “Practically free.”
An upgrade from Garden to Ocean View split between friends? “No brainer.”
Shared Ubers? “Cheaper than staying home.”
A charcuterie board for the table? “Group expense — doesn’t count.”
Girl Math thrives in community. When women travel together, the financial load becomes lighter, and the emotional payoff becomes bigger.
🙋♀️ 4. Investing in Future You
One of my favorite and most-used forms of Girl Math is the art of spending today so future you can thrive on vacation. It’s not delusion — it’s long‑term financial strategy with a side of serotonin.
· Pre‑Booking an All‑Inclusive = Future Me Lives for Free. There is no greater Girl Math high than stepping onto an all‑inclusive resort property and realizing everything is already paid for. Suddenly, every meal, every drink, every poolside snack is “free.” Honestly, I’ve spent less on a week at an all‑inclusive than I have on groceries, gas, and random Target runs at home. That’s not a vacation — that’s financial optimization.
· Gambling for Future Discounts. Is it risky? Sure. Is it Girl Math? Absolutely. If you gamble enough on a cruise or at certain hotels, you can qualify for discounted or even free future trips. So yes, go play that roulette, sis — you’re not losing money, you’re investing in future vacations.
· Loyalty Points: The Girl Math Retirement Plan. Hotel chains and airlines practically beg you to earn points, and Girl Math says it would be irresponsible not to. The more you travel, the more freebies you unlock — room upgrades, lounge access, bonus nights. It’s like a rewards program for being fabulous.
· Travel Credit Cards = Future Flights in Every Purchase. If you’re not earning points on every coffee, grocery run, or impulse buy, you’re leaving future vacations on the table. Travel cards turn everyday spending into flights, hotels, and upgrades. That’s not debt — that’s an investment to future joy.
· Booking Your Next Trip Before You Leave. One of the most powerful Girl Math moves: booking your return trip while you’re still on vacation. Resorts and cruise lines often offer massive discounts if you book before you leave. And honestly, what better time to commit to another trip than when you’re sun‑kissed, relaxed, and convinced you’re moving abroad permanently.
🍹 5. Vacation Calories and Vacation Dollars Follow the Same Rules
Just like vacation calories “don’t count,” vacation dollars operate in a parallel universe.
The $18 cocktail is part of the ambiance and support of the local economy.
The overpriced airport snack is a survival tactic.
Ordering the region’s signature dish isn’t indulgence — it’s research. You’re educating yourself about other cultures. That $28 entrée? A tuition fee.
The souvenir bracelet is a future heirloom.
The rooftop bar is an ROI on excellent photos.
Travel Girl Math says: if it enhances the vibe, it’s worth it.
👜 6. Time Is Money — And Girl Math Values Time Highly
Women often juggle work, caregiving, emotional labor, and social commitments. So when they finally take a trip, time becomes the most precious currency.
That’s why Girl Math justifies:
Paying extra for a direct flight—Bonus Girl Math: If you take the red-eye flight, you pay for one less hotel night and increase your time abroad by having a whole extra day!
Upgrading to a hotel closer to the city center—Bonus Girl Math: staying in the city also saves you money by paying less on transportation if it’s a walkable city.
Booking the spa appointment instead of “roughing it”.
It’s not indulgence — it’s efficiency.
🌍 7. Experiences Are Assets
Girl Math reframes travel as an investment in personal growth, friendships, and mental health.
You don’t “spend” on travel. You gain:
Confidence
Connection
Perspective
Joy
A camera roll full of serotonin
In this framework, travel isn’t a luxury — it’s a form of self‑care.
💖 Why Girl Math Works for Women Travelers
At its core, Girl Math is a playful way of acknowledging something deeper: women deserve rest, adventure, and pleasure without apology.
It’s not about ignoring budgets. It’s about giving yourself permission to enjoy the life you work hard for.
And honestly? If Girl Math is what gets you on that plane with your best friends, it’s worth its weight in gold.
Jamaica—One Love
Doctor’s Cave Beach, Jamaica, 12/15/25
Bob Marley said it best: One Love, One Heart, Let’s Get Together and Feel Alright.
No truer words could describe my feeling towards this incredible country—especially a month and a half after being hit by the strongest hurricane ever in history. As a frequent traveler and passionate admirer of this beautiful country, nothing could have prepared me for the roller coaster I experienced these past couple months.
Jamaica: Where Every Vibe Feels Like Home
Jamaica isn’t just a destination—it’s a feeling, it’s a culture, it’s a vibe. From the moment your feet touch the island, you’re wrapped in warm breezes, rhythmic music, and a culture that moves to its own soulful beat. Although I’ve never had the true pleasure of vacationing here since I often go for work, I’ve always said that nothing says vacation to me more than a swim-up bar or beach with a cocktail in my hand while listening to reggae music in the background. That is vacation. That is Jamaica.
The Island’s Natural Beauty
Although Jamaica has some of the most breathtaking beaches, the island’s landscape is a masterpiece of natural hidden gems. While powdery white- or gold-sand beaches line the coasts with sparkling turquoise waters, you have the emerald green mountains rise dramatically inland. The Blue Mountains are famous for producing some of the world’s best coffee, while natural surprises such as Blue Hole and Dunns River Falls invite visitors to climb, swim, jump, and reconnect with nature in the most refreshing way possible.
A Culture That Changes You
When I say Jamaica is what vacation means to me, it’s not just the beaches or the reggae music. It’s the language, the laughter, and the deep sense of community—something I didn’t know was as strong as it was until after Hurricane Melissa. It’s the chill vibes and calm attitude that remind me to slow down and savor the moment.
I’ve only ever been to Jamaica for work, but it has left a lasting impression. Our driver, Kevin—who’s worked with my company for 20 years—quickly rose to the top of my favorites list. He has this energy that makes you feel like everything will be alright. I didn’t realize how “LA” I was until I met Kevin—constantly asking about pickup times, deadlines, and schedules. He’d just smile and say, “Don’t worry, mon, I got you.” I’d reply, “I know you got me, but what time do you have me? I need to do XYZ…” And he’d calmly repeat, “Don’t worry about that. It’s going to be alright.”
That was the moment I realized I was on island time—and none of the things that stressed me out mattered anymore. Rain during the commute? Don’t worry. Running 10 minutes late? Don’t worry. Eventually, I started to embrace their way of thinking.
Even now, when life feels overwhelming, I ask myself: What would Kevin say? Throughout my life—whether it’s at home, work, relationships, setbacks—my colleague and I often remind each other, “It’ll be okay—Kevin would say that.”
I even sat through my first eight-hour flight delay on the way to Jamaica this past September, receiving constant upsetting news without an ounce of stress or frustration… just laughter. No one on the flight was upset either… I couldn’t believe it. Jamaica just does something to you—it changes your attitude and your outlook. I can’t explain it.
Flavor in Every Bite
Jamaican cuisine is bold, flavorful, and unforgettable. From flaky patties to my favorite—Scotchies jerk pork and chicken—there’s no shortage of dishes that will have you salivating the moment you arrive. Pair that with a sip of Jamaican Red Stripe or a piña colada made with Appleton Estate Rum, and the island greets you with flavor and feel good times.
The Jamaican Spirit
What truly sets Jamaica apart is its people—their warmth, resilience, and pride in their heritage. Visitors aren’t just guests; they’re family. Every time you return, you’re always welcomed home. It’s no wonder Jamaica has such a high number of repeat visitors.
Knocked Down, Never Knocked Out
On October 28, 2025, Jamaica was devastated by Category 5 Hurricane Melissa. Homes were destroyed, the island lost power, hotels shut down, and landmarks were damaged. Everything I loved about Jamaica felt shattered.
I wasn’t just heartbroken over the resorts—I grieved for the spirit of Jamaica, wondering if it could ever be the same. Were our friends safe? Did they have food, shelter, or electricity? Without electricity, I couldn’t get a hold of our friends to check in and see if they were okay. So, we had to rely on hopes and prayers. I felt helpless for an island that had given me so much.
Let’s Get Together, It’ll Be Alright
I’m grateful for my relationship with the Jamaica Tourist Board. Just days after Melissa hit, we jumped on a call for updates. We laughed, cried, and comforted each other in ways I didn’t know I needed. They told us they aimed to reopen by December 15 of 2025! I thought, No way—that’s impossible. You just had the strongest hurricane ever on record hit a couple weeks ago. I saw the video with the airport flooded, received daily reports of hotel closures and extensions of closures, and roads damaged. But they invited us to visit on December 15 to “Come See for Ourselves”—which is coincidentally their marketing tagline that we used prior to Hurricane Melissa. The goal was for us to see for ourselves so we could feel confident in offering travel to our guests there again.
My colleague and I returned with heavy hearts, very somber, bracing for devastation. We barely spoke to each other on the way out. We didn’t want to say out loud what we were expecting to walk into. We expected to walk into a war zone. But what we found was nothing short of miraculous.
How the Spirit of Jamaica Saved Them
We visited Negril, Montego Bay, Ocho Rios, and Trelawny. The hotels that reopened looked as good as before—some even better. Roads were cleaner, beaches had more sand, and attractions retained their natural beauty.
Yes, some hotels remain closed, and certain areas will take time to recover. But the tourist regions? You’d never know a hurricane hit.
What moved me most was the spirit of the people. It didn’t break—it grew stronger. Everywhere we went, workers shared stories of loss, yet they were grateful to be alive and proud to welcome visitors back with a smile. Resorts housed displaced staff, built homes, and funded supplies. The sense of community and resilience was overwhelming.
Since October 29, Jamaicans have worked tirelessly to restore tourism—often prioritizing that over their own homes. They’re not bitter, not broken, not asking for handouts or pity. They’re simply grateful.
I never expected to see what I did. And I can say with confidence: if you book a trip to Jamaica today, you’ll have the time of your life. The best way to give back is to go back.
And I promise you this—the Jamaica you visit a year from now will be stronger than ever. Not even the most powerful hurricane in history could break them. They are proud. They are unstoppable.
Jamaica—you are my one love.
Red Eyes Over Red Flags
There comes a point in life when you realize exhaustion is temporary, but emotional chaos has a way over overstaying its welcome.
Red-eye flights get a bad rap. They can leave you sleepless, exhausted and questioning life choices at 5:00 a.m., and occasionally with back pain. But, then again, so do men with red flags. The difference is… a red eye takes me somewhere new and exciting and leaves me with an abundance of adrenaline and excitement to get me through the day. Whereas a man with red flags makes me question if it’s even worth getting out of bed that day. The most exciting place he takes me is a trip to go see a therapist to uncover the mental gymnastics he’s played on my mind.
At least a red-eye flight is honest. You know exactly what you’re getting into. You know up front you’re going to be uncomfortable and lose some sleep. Red flags? They’re disguised in lies and make you believe they’re charming, but you’re just left with confusion and bullshit.
I once dated someone who only showed up or texted when it was convenient. Plans were always tentative. Texts came in waves. When I would bring it up, I would be gaslit. That same month, I booked a quick weekend getaway to visit a friend. With no vacation time, I took the red eye, and arrived exhausted, makeup smudged, and running on fumes—yet I had felt lighter than I had in weeks. It occurred to me I was willing to be tired for the experiences and people who showed up, but bending myself into knots for someone who didn’t.
We’re so quick to take the chance on something that appears amazing, even if we know it’s covered in red flags. But the honest option that may pose minor inconveniences but you know exactly what you get often gets disregarded.
Why I’ll Always Take The Red Eye:
· If you live on the west coast and you travel east, you gain an entire day with a red eye without having to take an extra day off work!
· If you get to the resort after 5pm, you are paying the hotel for a day you didn’t get. You’re also paying the airline for a seat to sit in all day that same day! You’re paying for a day that you didn’t get.
· 2:30 a.m. wake up calls? No, thank you! Living in Los Angeles, I could have to leave the house 4-5 hours before my flight time thanks to 24-7 traffic hell. With a 6:00 a.m. flight, that would mean getting up when my friends are just getting home from the clubs.
· I’ll never get tired of watching a sunrise from 35,000 ft. in the air
Essentially, I look at red-eye flights as an initial setback that pays off! It appears bad at first but the outcome is so much better than what you expected. Essentially—the opposite of a red flag.
Why I Stopped Accepting the Red Flags
While a red eye has a destination, the red flags just keep you circling. It’s an ongoing flight that you can’t get off.
I’d rather:
· Be tired than confused
· Be jet-lagged than emotionally drained
· Arrive groggy with excitement instead of rested and unsettled
Sleep can be recovered quickly. Trust takes forever to recover.
Preferring a red eye doesn’t mean I enjoy discomfort. It means I prefer to sacrifice a little discomfort on the front end to have more time to enjoy and play on the back end.
Final Boarding Call
These days, if I have to choose between temporary discomfort and long-term misalignment, I’m grabbing the carry-on and heading to the gate.
I prefer a red eye over red flags. At least one of them gets me where I’m going and where I belong.
✈️💘 I Can Plan an International Trip Before He Can Plan a Date
Let’s talk about something I’ve recently discovered about myself:
I can plan a 14-day international itinerary — complete with flights, hotels, cruise, activities, restaurant reservations, currency tips, and a color-coded Google map — faster than a man can decide what time he’s free on Friday.
And honestly? That says a lot.
Here’s the thing: When I want to go somewhere, I book the flight.
When I want to see something, I do the research and build an itinerary.
When I want a vibe, I make it happen.
Meanwhile, he’s still “figuring out his schedule.”
His schedule = absolutely nothing but vibes and vague commitments he made to himself in the shower.
✈️ There’s a special skill in being a woman who travels
Women who travel solo, often, or even with their girlfriends all have the same superpower: we make things happen.
Quickly. Efficiently. Effortlessly.
Need flights? Done.
Need hotels? Booked.
Need a full list of activities, hotspots, rooftop bars, hidden gems, and cute photo spots?
Already saved to a folder.
Meanwhile, the guy you’re texting is still typing, deleting, and retyping:
“What do you wanna do?” Or, my favorite: “WYD?”
💬
Here’s why we can plan trips so fast:
1. We’re used to taking care of ourselves.
We don’t wait for someone to make our lives fun or memorable — we just go.
2. We know what we like.
Food, views, vibes, hotels… we have standards, and we’re not shy about them.
3. We’ve learned not to rely on men for planning.
Because let’s be honest:
If I left my weekend up to him, I’d end up making plans my friends instead because he waited too long to decide what he wants to do or I get a last-minute request to come over and watch a movie that we’ve already seen.
4. We have main-character energy.
We’re not waiting around for someone to choose us — we’re choosing experiences.
✈️ Planning a date shouldn’t be harder than booking a flight
A date is literally:
Pick a day
Pick a time
Pick a place
ONE place.
Not five hotels, two airports, three train stations, and a ferry.
And still…
Men act like this is the most complicated decision of their lives.
If I can cross a border, navigate a foreign subway system, and order food in a different language, he can… bare minimum… choose a restaurant.
But somehow? No.
💘 So what does this mean?
It means I’m done over-investing in under-planned men.
If I can plan a whole international trip in 24 hours, I’m not accepting:
“Let’s just see what happens”
“I’ll let you know later”
“What do you wanna do?”
“I’m bad at planning”
“WYD”
You’re not bad at planning.
You’re bad at effort.
And effort is the bare minimum.
✨ Final thought
If a man wants to see you, he’ll plan.
If he wants to date you, he’ll make it clear.
If he wants your time, he’ll value it.
Until then?
I have flights to catch. ✈️
And I promise you:
I will always book a plane ticket faster than I will wait on someone’s bare-minimum energy.